What should I do in a relationship?

Question

I explain the situation: I am in a relationship with a woman for 6 months.  Everything is fine except for one detail: her ex! When I met my gf she was single for over a year. When I asked her to explain me the reason for their separation, she told me that they were together a few months, then they moved in together and that's when she realized it wasnt working and she kicked him out. I know from someone else that at the same time he had been assigned to work across the country for several years. The problem is that they talk to each other almost every day (he always finds a reason to talk with her) he comments each of her photos on Facebook saying how she is very pretty and other compliments, he always tries to make it  nostalgic when talking to her about a trip they did together etc ... What teases me is that she doesnt want to appear as a couple on social medias and that all her friends know about our relationship except him.  When I asked her why she didnt want to appear in a relationship on social media, she said it had been too much trouble in the past.  And when I asked her why her ex was the only one who dont know about our relationship, she simply told me that there is no reason to tell him because they are just friends. Another problem is that she will never write to him or talk to him in front of me.  When I told her that I was not comfortable with this situation, she only told me that I didnt have to worry but she would not stop talking to him because they are friends since highschool. I doubt about her honesty on this subject.  What should I do?

Answer 1

It's understandable that you feel uncomfortable with the situation regarding your girlfriend's ex. It's important to communicate with your girlfriend about your concerns and how it's affecting your relationship. It's not healthy to be in a relationship where you feel uneasy and have doubts about your partner's honesty.

You can express your feelings and ask your girlfriend for reassurance and clarity about her relationship with her ex. Ask her to explain why they talk to each other so often and why he's the only one who doesn't know about your relationship.

At the same time, try to understand her perspective and listen to what she has to say. It's possible that she's genuinely just friends with him and that there's nothing more to it. But if she's unable to provide you with reassurance or if her actions continue to make you uncomfortable, you may need to reevaluate the relationship and whether it's right for you.

It's important to be with someone who respects your feelings and makes you feel secure in the relationship. Ultimately, the decision about what to do next is up to you, but it's important to have open and honest communication with your girlfriend to work through any issues in your relationship.